Not Having Fun in Your Relationship?

Here’s How to Fix It

Laura Silverstein, LCSW
4 min readJun 24, 2021

Great communication, intimacy, trust, and commitment are all roads that lead back to the same goal: to enjoy a lifetime adventure together.

A successful relationship isn’t the absence of pain; it’s the presence of joy. So often, people with the best intentions understand that “relationships are hard work,” and they work so hard that they forget to make time for hopes, dreams, play, and just plain fun.

Making life dreams come true

“Making Life Dreams Come True” is one of the core elements that leads to long-term relationship success according to the research of Dr. John Gottman and his team. Couples who honor one another’s hopes and ambitions are more likely to stay together than those who don’t. It doesn’t have to be extreme or profound. It could be as simple as signing up for a pottery class together because you know your partner loves ceramics.

Here are three quick and easy steps you can try this week:

Step 1. Prioritize joy

Remember the reason why you’re in a relationship in the first place. You want to enjoy your life side-by-side with your loved one.

You probably didn’t choose your partner for their conflict management skills. You…

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Laura Silverstein, LCSW
Laura Silverstein, LCSW

Written by Laura Silverstein, LCSW

Career couples therapist turned published author! Check out Love Is an Action Verb, a DIY relationship self-help book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09QLFBRVR

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