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27 Science-Backed Questions to Assess Your Relationship Right Now
Asked by a certified couples therapist.
When my couples therapy clients come to me for their assessment, their worst fear is that I’m going to tell them their relationship is doomed.
This is never true.
First off, I am much more diplomatic than that. But even more importantly, it’s up to you, not me, whether or not your relationship is doomed. If you and your partner love and respect one another, and there is no physical or emotional abuse, you can make some changes to make things better.
If you came to me for help, I’d ask you 80 minutes worth of questions, and then I’d have you complete 20 pages of questionnaires to give me a sense of the strengths and areas of growth in your relationship.
Obviously, a blog post cannot replace a four-hour intake by a licensed professional, but perhaps it can give you an opportunity to self-reflect and see where you need a little bit of TLC.
Hopefully, you two are doing well and can answer “no” to the large majority of the questions below. Nothing is every always or never true, so just think of each question in terms of how you have felt the last few weeks. It’s normal to feel negative feelings right after an argument, so try to think of your…
